What makes us go 'long-piak' most of the time? Because we think we know better? Or maybe we feel we're right? I don't know but each has its own reason. I 'long-piak' sometimes too. But over the years, I've learned to listen to counsel; as much as I sometimes don't like to but because I realize they come from good and well-meaning friends who want what is good for me, I try out their advice. Of course occasionally it still won't work out but I think I'm still better of for trying. Cos sometimes others see things we don't cos we are too clouded by our feelings.
'Long-piak'... it's actually a painful affair. But sometimes it's the only way to learn. Pain makes us better learners. But if we can avoid hitting the wall, it's much better. Why this rambling?? Cos I think I see a friend 'long-piak' and costing her so much; yet she cannot seem to realize it. *Sigh* But it's our own choice in the end... have to hit, you'll just have to.