Revenge is sweet... so goes the old idiom.
All of us have this trait in us.... it's only how much room you allow it to take over your life that makes the difference.
A revengeful person is a more often than never a bitter person; bitterness makes us rabid and rancid. Revengeful people are unhappy people, mostly with the way how their own lives turn out. That beh-kam-buan feeling never goes away. You turn your bitterness on other people because you cannot have that fleeting happiness. So if you cannot be happy, others also cannot be happy. Happy people are seldom revengeful, I notice.
Anyway, Confucius said... "before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves." One thing though, we often fail to take note that revenge kills us eventually too.... the second grave (which is ours) is a sure destination for the person executing revenge. Cos the reason is plain and simple. For every 'sweet' revenge we plot, we lose a bit of ourselves. For the continuous revengeful desires that we continue to nurture, our soul we sell too.... to the grave! to the grave!
But if one has to be revengeful, I think there's a better way..... forgiveness. Forgiveness is probably the sweetest revenge. LOL! After all the purpose of revenge is to cause us frustrations... in other words, make us feel like the revengeful person. What does it mean to forgive? Sometimes I think it's difficult to just pretend nothing has happened, the path which many of us are likely to take. For me, I won't continue to pick an issue at it or try to even get back. I think it's easier to just walk away from it all..... The issue is no longer you, it's the other person. And I think it's best to leave the person to deal with whatever issues herself.
The Bible says love conquers all, to put it simply. I think it's true.
But if allowed to eat into us, I guess at the end of this road of revenge is probably another R word - Ruin. A ruined eternity.