Mobile Phones and relationships...

Was on a mobile phone hunt...decided to look for a camera phone since I forget my camera sometimes. And it's easier to have a 2-in-1, one gadget instead of two. Finally settled on a SE Cybershot series since picture quality is not too bad. Was drooling over Samsung InoV8 but it was too pricey. Migrating from a different make (Nokia) meant extra work on my contacts!!! 8( Spent a good part of the night on it!

This is a shot with it.... Christmas deco at church still not taken down yet. Pic quality not too bad-lah.

Another shot of dinner (so-so)...yet another feast with friends...Karyn brought her 2 very young looking friends from Ipoh who joined us. And I thought the season for rich food was over.... after dinner we had a cake; it's George's birthday!

Anyway, spent a good part of yesterday fiddling with the new phone. I like it. In between, I listened and watched my 2 very young friends perform their piano pieces for me through Skype....all the way from across the Pacific Ocean. It was a good performance and I enjoyed their piano playing. I'm amazed at how technology has made distance seems so immaterial. The best part is I can see them and they me!!!! 8)

Since on the subject of phone, am reminded of this. You've got to love and hate the mobile phone at the same time. Mobile phones have infiltrated and changed our lives. From a communicative device, it became a one stop media center. And it also became a medium of relationships... it has changed the way relationships change and evolve.....

You know when you fall in love, you would like to spend as much time as possible with the person you're in love with. But at the same time, a courtship is bound to go through fine and stormy days.

In the last couple of years however, I've seen how stormy days in a relationship have been compounded and blown out of proportions by mobile phones. Imagine a couple arguing over something...soon smses start flying around...accusations hurled...then emotions stirred...then calls start coming...back and forth the whole thing can go, until both parties are emotionally and mentally drained.

From the Bible, Ephesians 4: 26 has a very practical advice...Let not the sun go down on your anger.

The mobile makes it easy for one to fuel his/her anger.... instead of giving anger a break and letting it cool off.... it takes on a life of its own. A relationship turning sour because of this becomes very stifling. And a lot of $$$ is wasted....the telcos still make money out of people's miseries! Anger is not something everyone manages well!

In days of old, you get time out to think and reflect. These days, how to reflect when a touch of a few buttons will get things off your chest?...so you feel. I've seen many relationships break because of this inability to control their emotions.

Such a pity cos these young people are sucked into the vortex of a black emo hole because they do not realized that they no longer have control over their feelings. I am glad that there were no mobiles when Other Half and I were in our courtship years. Trying to reign in your emotions in those early years was difficult enough. Having a mobile to compound the problems would have made things more difficult.

I am not saying that the mobile is bad. Good or bad...it's up to the user. Today's generation thrives and lives on instant gratification...I too am caught up in this sometimes. What I think is there is this need to develop patience to balance that instant everything. So does the mobile liberate or beset a relationship with more problems???? My 2 sen today!

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